"Good Advice?" page 1
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Recently, a woman in her early 50’s called and advised my wife that she leave
our children in San Diego and travel across the country.  Leave your children?  
My oldest son is not 2 years old yet and my youngest son is 5 months and
breast-feeds.  Leave your children and travel across the country?  How could
someone advice such a thing?

Over the years I have come to realize that advice is a subjective thing
because people can only give advice based upon their own personal
experience.  Let us call this phenomenon the Advisors Subjective Experience
Syndrome or A.S.E.S.

I have observed A.S.E.S. in the advice that some mothers have given to my
wife during our first, second, and now third pregnancy.  I cannot tell you how
many times my wife was advised that, “Your pregnancy will be hard.  Carrying
a baby for 9 months is torture.  You should have waited to have children.  
Once you have children your life is over.  You won’t be able to afford to have
children.  You will need a lot of help once the baby is born.”  Such advice is
pessimistic, depressing, and in our personal pregnancy experience, flat out
wrong.

Now ask yourself, why would someone offer such dreadfully negative advice
to a pregnant women?  I am sure that there are many answers to this question
but let me share with you my observations: