Being Open to Receiving the Help of Others

Published on December 14, 2011 by in Uncategorized


There is a thin line between being self-sufficient and being unwilling to accept the help of others.  For much of my life I have been the type of person who has felt a sense of control by managing all of my affairs without accepting the help of others.  In actuality this has been a character flaw that I have sought to correct for the last decade.

Lenon HonorI have learned that accepting the help of others actually completes the cycle of reciprocity which is a natural law that governs this particular universe.

Reciprocity is a principle that can be found in the 42 Negative Confessions of Ma’at.  At its core, reciprocity maintains the circulation of energy in the universe as expressed via the act of mutually beneficial exchange amongst all things in the universe.  In essence, what you give is what you receive.  What you receive is what you give.  In this sense, giving and receiving are mutually inclusive expressions of the wholeness and the oneness of the cosmos.


This reminds me of an old story that I would like to share with you:


Lenon HonorGrandmother Mary was happy to see her grandson again.  She had not seen him for several months.  Her grandson, who was 18 years old, was about to go off to college and would not return for many months.

When Grandmother Mary saw her grandson she gave him a hug and said, “Oh it is so good to see you again.  I am so proud of you.”

“Thanks Grandma, it is good to see you too.”

“So you are going off to college?”

“Yes I am Grandmother Mary.  I leave tomorrow.”

Grandmother Mary smiled “I am so proud of you.  Do you need anything?”

“No I am fine.  I have everything I need.”

“Are you sure?”

“Yes Grandmother.  I am sure.”

Grandmother Mary walked into the kitchen and opened up a cabinet.  She took out a small porcelain container and set it on the counter.  She opened the container and took out a stack of money.  She walked over to her Grandson and said, “I have been saving this for you.  Take this money and use it for whatever you might need.”

“Oh Grandmother I do not need the money.  Go ahead and keep it.  I am fine.”

Grandmother Mary took a step back.  “But I have been saving it for you.”

“I appreciate that Grandmother but no thanks.  Keep it for yourself.”

Grandmother Mary put her hands on her hips and gave her grandson a searing stare.  “So you are going to let your ego get in the way of me receiving my blessings?”

“What do you mean Grandma?”

“Well if you don’t take this money then the blessing that would have come to me by giving you this money will be blocked.  You see grandson, by not taking this money you are blocking my blessings.”

The grandson now understood and he accepted his blessing.  The next day Grandmother Mary won the lottery!

There are some of us who have not fully realized that receiving is just as important as giving.  In giving we set in motion our receiving.  In receiving we allow for blessings to flow into our lives and into the lives of others while completing the cycle of the natural law known as reciprocity.  May we all learn to give and to receive.


Copyright © 2011 Lenon Honor

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3 Responses to “Being Open to Receiving the Help of Others”

  1. Sean says:

    Great story Lenon. It can be natural to refuse help and gifts from others because it may make us feel bad for accepting it, when it fact you’re doing them a disservice by refusing. It makes people feel good to give, when you accept the gift, you’re both a giver and a receiver, because you’re giving back just by accepting their gift. Pretty cool!

  2. Al M Jr says:

    Hey brother Lenon,

    Absolutely I am still learning to receive as well and even ask for help when in times of need. In my past false pride was my culprit for smashing others heart to give to me. I was the guy you would ask if he’s hungry and I would be starving but respond with a dismal no…such foolishness!

    “You reap what you sow”

    Thanks for the insight…

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